What do you think: is it true that we're all purportedly born with traits/character that matches our birth order, or is it simply a made-up condition?

Ok, 1^st of all, this topic is VERY INTRESTING! J I love it!

Anyways, in my opinion, it is so not true that we are all purportedly born with traits/character that matches our birth order.

This is because, not all of the eldest child is more responsible, mature, often a perfectionist, a good leader, higher IQ, and have low self-esteem.   Same goes to middle child, not all of them are an over achiever, creative, artistically inclined, often felt neglected, and lack of direction. As for the last child, not all often get away with anything, not independent, often not taken seriously.

We should understand that children’s characters are the way their parents brought them up and influence them. Their characters develop slowly on how their parents treated them. For example, if a mother is not working, staying at home taking care of her children while her husband is the one who worked and support the family, the mother of course have enough time to give and spread her love in the house to all her children.

The problem now days are that, both parents are working. When the children came back home from school, both of the parents are not home to give attention to them. And when the parents did come back home from work, they only gives attention to the youngest one present at that time because they THINK that child is the one who need their attention. They don’t even have a 2^nd thought that the OTHER children need attention too. The OTHER children have problems too. Children no matter what age still need their parents. Parents are the one that only accept them truly for who they are.

Another problem that I personally think is so unfair is when a child gets to be the-so-called “favourite” child. Why this happens at the 1^st place? Siblings were born from the same womb from a particular woman. Why do you have to love this one more than the other? Just because this one is more intelligent, more beautiful, responsible, help you a lot, does not give you the permission to love them more. You are a mother. You give birth. You should love your children equally. Accept their weakness. The one that has problems, treat them with gentle, with love, try to make them understand; make them feel that you will always be there for them. You’ll see how they can transform into someone you can be proud of.

Children now days just need attention. Give them the attention (which sometimes children take as love), EQUALLY among siblings, and all of them will be happy. This may sound bad, BUT if you think you can’t do that (treat your children equally), then don’t give birth to a lot of child. Have 2 maybe. And please don’t give reasons such as “rezeki dari Allah” because they are A LOT of ways to prevent pregnancy. We are in the era where science and technology is a huge thing now. Humans are creating machine that we can control with only brain thinking. And you are saying you can’t stop pregnancy?? Yeah right!

We should always treat everybody well. When everybody is happy, we will automatically be happy too.

Life is so beautiful. Live to your fullest J



Posted by F a r a h @ I z w a n at 6:50 PM